Embodied Transformation & Evolution

Articles by Shayla

Articles by Shayla

We Got Lucky ~ What every moment offers us

Posted by on Aug 29, 2018 in Articles by Shayla, Lifeletters & Articles | 5 comments

We Got Lucky ~ What every moment offers us

I had a bad day this week. It was a day of struggle and self judgment. The kind of day when you feel powerless, trapped inside the stories of the mind. The ruthless logic of my intellect had me pinned to the wall. The story of failure, of missing the boat, was loud and persistent. I saw myself repeating the same tragic mental and emotional habits of my parents, perpetuating the traumatic imprints of my whole ancestral line. Emerging from weeks of wild fire smoke, the infinite bright beauty of...

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A Safe Place To Fall ~ Taking Refuge in the Soft Spot

Posted by on Apr 24, 2018 in Articles by Shayla, Featured Writing | 2 comments

A Safe Place To Fall ~ Taking Refuge in the Soft Spot

“Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness” ~Peter Levine~ Recently, during a training that I am part of, I had the privilege of holding a beautiful and brilliant young woman I admire, while she wept her heart out. Two other women also held her, softly, tenderly and with reverence. I could feel the medicine of her deep grief informing me, inviting me, softening me. I was so honoured to offer her a safe place to fall, into this river of...

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Learning to Be Here

Posted by on Jun 6, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Lifeletters & Articles | 1 comment

Learning to Be Here

yes, yes, that’s what I wanted, I always wanted, I always wanted, to return to the body where I was born. ~Allen Ginsberg It can be quite a shock, when you begin to see: you thought all this time that you were here, but you were not. Not all of you. That’s what has happened for me, over the last few years. I discovered how much of myself I left behind. I had to learn to call those parts of myself back into my life, into my living breathing existence, into my body. It...

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To Ground Myself in Nothing

Posted by on May 16, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 7 comments

To Ground Myself in Nothing

Now that I’ve been in Victoria for nearly two years, I finally feel as if I have a life here. It’s not an idea, but an actual feeling in my body, that I am rooted here now, in a new life, that I am a vibrant part of the landscape, that I belong. It’s a glorious feeling and very interesting to me, since I have been engrossed for several years in a deep study of the nature of belonging. Human beings have a deep primordial need to belong. This is not always a happy story, since...

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Ending the Shadow Dance

Posted by on Apr 10, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Lifeletters & Articles | 3 comments

Ending the Shadow Dance

Whether all is really lost or not depends entirely on whether or not I am lost. –Vaclav Havel Many of our relationships contain shadow elements, ways of being with each other that are not conscious. These unconscious dynamics do not lead us towards health, authentic connection, and awakening. They protect us, they attempt to make us feel comfortable, safe, stable; and they often numb us, shut us down and fragment us in the process. One of the central drivers in our shadow worlds are the...

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Lifeletter #133: This Changes Everything

Posted by on Apr 13, 2015 in Articles by Shayla, Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 3 comments

Lifeletter #133: This Changes Everything

To change everything, it takes everyone. This means you. And me. And the woman on the street. And the person next door. Nobody gets to let themselves off the hook.

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