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Stoking the Fire of Our Intent ~ a deeper willingness to meet life as it is

Posted by on Nov 1, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 1 comment

Stoking the Fire of Our Intent ~ a deeper willingness to meet life as it is

I was working with a beautiful young woman a while ago. She was exploring her capacity for true intimacy, and how that intimacy depends on a deep commitment to staying present when she is with her partner, even when she wants to run away. I told her that I had recently been seeing, for the first time, many of the subtle ways that I still ‘leave the room’ when things get uncomfortable for me in the field of relating. I said that seeing these tendencies in myself had ignited a strong...

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The Down & Dirty Truth about Self Love ~ the medicine we need is strong & simple

Posted by on Oct 24, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 8 comments

The Down & Dirty Truth about Self Love ~ the medicine we need is strong & simple

I’m not one of those spiritual people who thinks that self-love is a distraction because there is ultimately no separate self.

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The Trouble with Teachings – The Abandonment of our Authentic Being

Posted by on Oct 18, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 4 comments

The Trouble with Teachings – The Abandonment of our Authentic Being

Teachings are great–without our teachers and what they offer us, we would be pretty stuck. Teachers can take an infinite variety of forms; sometimes a heartbreak or a crisis is a more powerful teacher than a human being who sits on a special seat at the front of the room. Many people have been transformed in the presence of animals and trees and children. The trouble with the more formal teachings is that they can very easily just live in our minds, not in our guts, our bones, and our...

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To Ground Myself in Nothing ~ finding our way in the liminal space

Posted by on Oct 3, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 4 comments

To Ground Myself in Nothing ~ finding our way in the liminal space

Now that I’ve been in Victoria for nearly two and a half years, I finally feel as if I have a life here. It’s not an idea, but an actual feeling in my body, that I am rooted here now, in a new life, that I am a vibrant part of the landscape, that I belong. It’s a glorious feeling and very interesting to me since I have been engrossed for several years in a deep study of the nature of belonging. Human beings have a deep primordial need to belong. This is not always a happy...

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Resting in Connection ~ disarming the ways in which we hold back from love & intimacy

Posted by on Sep 26, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 1 comment

Resting in Connection ~ disarming the ways in which we hold back from love & intimacy

A married couple I know and love shared with me last week one of the greatest resources they discovered last winter, as they were passing through a very difficult time: it was a practice they called ‘Resting in Connection.’ I was deeply inspired by the beauty and simplicity of this way of naming a very powerful resource. ‘Resting in Connection,’ if we take it up as a practice, will connect us with a deep source of nourishment and healing, and also with the challenges,...

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Into The Deep Water ~ the next step in our human journey

Posted by on Sep 13, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 3 comments

Into The Deep Water ~ the next step in our human journey

The path to emotional maturity is a wild one. It’s not an academic path; it’s like learning how to swim. We have to get into the deep water. The nature of our emotions is very simple-they need to be felt.

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