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Learning to Be Here

Posted by on Jun 6, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Lifeletters & Articles | 1 comment

Learning to Be Here

yes, yes, that’s what I wanted, I always wanted, I always wanted, to return to the body where I was born. ~Allen Ginsberg It can be quite a shock, when you begin to see: you thought all this time that you were here, but you were not. Not all of you. That’s what has happened for me, over the last few years. I discovered how much of myself I left behind. I had to learn to call those parts of myself back into my life, into my living breathing existence, into my body. It...

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Your Dragon Waits

Posted by on May 23, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 2 comments

Your Dragon Waits

“Real shadow work does not leave us intact; it is not some neat and tidy process but rather an inherently messy one, as vital and unpredictably alive as birth… Real shadow work not only breaks us down but also breaks us open, turning frozen yesterday into fluid now.”   ~ Robert Augustus Masters I’ve listened to people speak to me recently about how hard it is for them to be around their aging parents. They feel the rigidity, the brittleness that happens when we keep...

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To Ground Myself in Nothing

Posted by on May 16, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 7 comments

To Ground Myself in Nothing

Now that I’ve been in Victoria for nearly two years, I finally feel as if I have a life here. It’s not an idea, but an actual feeling in my body, that I am rooted here now, in a new life, that I am a vibrant part of the landscape, that I belong. It’s a glorious feeling and very interesting to me, since I have been engrossed for several years in a deep study of the nature of belonging. Human beings have a deep primordial need to belong. This is not always a happy story, since...

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The Door of Revelation

Posted by on May 8, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 4 comments

The Door of Revelation

“Every human being dwells intimately close to a door of revelation they are afraid to pass through.” -David Whyte- Parker Palmer once said, speaking about the years he spent struggling with deep disabling depression, that all along there was someone or something right behind him, asking for his attention; but he couldn’t turn around, not for years and years. Our doorway of revelation is like that: it’s right behind us, or beside us, or in front of us, but we cannot walk through...

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The ‘N’ Word

Posted by on Apr 17, 2017 in Featured Writing, Lifeletters & Articles | 6 comments

The ‘N’ Word

I arrived at our tiny airport to a scene of chaos. There were masses of people in the line for security, all departing around the same time. Everything was all jammed up; and the time required to get through security was creating stress for a lot of people, who were not sure if they were going to make their flights. I ran to the check-in kiosk and started punching my information in, to get my boarding pass as fast as I could. My anxiety immediately impacted my brain-I couldn’t get the...

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Ending the Shadow Dance

Posted by on Apr 10, 2017 in Articles by Shayla, Lifeletters & Articles | 3 comments

Ending the Shadow Dance

Whether all is really lost or not depends entirely on whether or not I am lost. –Vaclav Havel Many of our relationships contain shadow elements, ways of being with each other that are not conscious. These unconscious dynamics do not lead us towards health, authentic connection, and awakening. They protect us, they attempt to make us feel comfortable, safe, stable; and they often numb us, shut us down and fragment us in the process. One of the central drivers in our shadow worlds are the...

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