Riding The Waves, Lifeletter 46
A student and friend of mine went surfing in Oregon over Christmas. We has a conversation, a very brief one, when he returned. “You can’t half catch a wave,” he said. “You have to commit to it, and then once you’ve caught the wave, you have to surrender. If you try to control it, you’ll never make it.” That image contained something for me, something that just kept working away inside, like sand in an oyster. In the nondual coaching I do with people, we learn how to ride the waves...
Read MoreThe Sounds of Joy & Suffering, Lifeletter 45
I live in a small community, a little town in the mountains of British Columbia. In this place we cannot take refuge in the anonymity of the city, although sometimes we long for that. I see our community as a mandala, a living web, in which something that one person experiences ripples through the whole mandala, because of the interconnection. Over the past 10 days, I have witnessed so many different aspects of life moving through us all: wives weeping for their husbands, mothers terrified for...
Read MoreJust Washed Clean, Lifeletter 44
I spent some time yesterday with a longtime friend of mine, who is also a teacher. We were talking about how we used to think of the movement of evolution in our lives in terms of ‘awakening’ or ‘realization’ or ‘enlightenment.’ Now we both speak of this as simply ‘growing up.’ Growing up has tremendous appeal for me, at this stage in my life. I notice however, that some of my students and clients get a glazed look in their eyes when they hear these words. The idea of ‘growing...
Read MoreDivine Unease, Lifeletter 39
There seems to be a kind of inner restlessness, a divine unease, bubbling up in all kinds of people these days, in relation to their work. “I used to be okay with this job,” they say, “but now, it just doesn’t feel quite right. I feel like I should be doing something else, something different.” “What do you want to do?” I ask “I don’t know. That’s the hardest part. I just can’t imagine what it could be… I’d just like to participate in something, be a part of...
Read MoreLifeletter 5: The Positive Deviants
Have you heard about the positive deviants? There is growing body of research on this particular group of people. I first heard of them from Marshall Thurber, a student of Buckminster Fuller. The positive deviants are people from all races and cultures, who have somehow triumphed in situations where everyone else got stuck.
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