The Path Towards Our Deeper Longing ~ and the deaths we meet along the way
Human relationships are so complex, so full of shadows and potential trigger points, that there are no real experts. I might have written 23 books on relating, and still say precisely the wrong thing when I meet my son for dinner. Or when I’m lying with my wife in bed. Or joking with someone in the staff room. The ways in which we misunderstand each other, offend and hurt and miss each other, are endless. Even when our love is as deep as an ocean, these painful glitches can happen in a moment.
Read MoreNo Straight Lines-finding our way in the messy complexity of life
Our egoic mind functions like this a great deal of the time. It makes me so important—I really think I am the centre of everything. And that I am also totally separate and distinct from everything else.
Read MoreThe Life That Chooses You ~ Living on your Sacred Edge
Who knows what brings to us these moments, in which we are shaken up, startled, and issued a radical invitation: to step into the life that chooses us. This is our authentic life, not anyone else’s. It’s a life that is much bigger than our personal agendas. And at the same time, this is our way, which is utterly unique. Not separate, and not the same as any other human being. These moments in which we feel life nudging us, inviting us, challenging us, can be very disturbing. We feel...
Read MoreBecoming an Invitation ~ Surrendering to the strange pull of what you really love
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” ~Rumi On Saturday, during the global online event ‘One World Bearing Witness,’ I witnessed something that lit a flame inside my heart. Two beautiful dark haired young women came together for a very simple ritual: one from Palestine and one from Israel. They spoke of their part of the world as ‘the tired land,’ a place exhausted by violence, fragmentation and...
Read MoreSmall Courageous Acts of Change ~ taking the next impossible step in our evolution
A marvellous man I am working with in Europe told me the other day, “I want to be responsive in my relationships, not reactive. I want to be undefended. I want to be courageous enough to let another person look inside me.” I wanted to weep when I heard this—it was such a pure expression of his authentic longing. This is not the same impulse that drives us to be ‘better.’ This is not about self-improvement at all. Our real longings, the ones that arise from our true self, our...
Read MoreYour Beautiful Need ~ redesigning human culture
The world population of our planet is over 7.5 billion now, and rising; and there have never been so many lonely and isolated people living on our planet. It’s like that painful feeling of being alone in a crowd-a very big crowd. I witnessed a powerful dialogue recently, that changed something deep inside me. The conversation happened between a teacher of mine, Thomas Huebl, and one of his students, a woman who had recently suffered a great loss. She told him that she was still struggling...
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