Your Dragon Waits
“Real shadow work does not leave us intact; it is not some neat and tidy process but rather an inherently messy one, as vital and unpredictably alive as birth… Real shadow work not only breaks us down but also breaks us open, turning frozen yesterday into fluid now.” ~ Robert Augustus Masters I’ve listened to people speak to me recently about how hard it is for them to be around their aging parents. They feel the rigidity, the brittleness that happens when we keep...
Read MoreTo Ground Myself in Nothing
Now that I’ve been in Victoria for nearly two years, I finally feel as if I have a life here. It’s not an idea, but an actual feeling in my body, that I am rooted here now, in a new life, that I am a vibrant part of the landscape, that I belong. It’s a glorious feeling and very interesting to me, since I have been engrossed for several years in a deep study of the nature of belonging. Human beings have a deep primordial need to belong. This is not always a happy story, since...
Read MoreThe Door of Revelation
“Every human being dwells intimately close to a door of revelation they are afraid to pass through.” -David Whyte- Parker Palmer once said, speaking about the years he spent struggling with deep disabling depression, that all along there was someone or something right behind him, asking for his attention; but he couldn’t turn around, not for years and years. Our doorway of revelation is like that: it’s right behind us, or beside us, or in front of us, but we cannot walk through...
Read MoreThe ‘N’ Word
I arrived at our tiny airport to a scene of chaos. There were masses of people in the line for security, all departing around the same time. Everything was all jammed up; and the time required to get through security was creating stress for a lot of people, who were not sure if they were going to make their flights. I ran to the check-in kiosk and started punching my information in, to get my boarding pass as fast as I could. My anxiety immediately impacted my brain-I couldn’t get the...
Read MoreEnding the Shadow Dance
Whether all is really lost or not depends entirely on whether or not I am lost. –Vaclav Havel Many of our relationships contain shadow elements, ways of being with each other that are not conscious. These unconscious dynamics do not lead us towards health, authentic connection, and awakening. They protect us, they attempt to make us feel comfortable, safe, stable; and they often numb us, shut us down and fragment us in the process. One of the central drivers in our shadow worlds are the...
Read MoreStalking the Soul
We get so wrapped up in survival, and what others expect of us, and what we expect of ourselves, that the voice of the soul can’t reach us, in all that noise.
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